You aren’t always in control of your circumstances, but you are in control of how you respond to them. Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit, an often overlooked one. It’s not the ability to push your feelings down, grind your teeth, and do what’s required. Self-control brings you into union with God, so you can deal with what’s in front of you with the same peaceful, powerful mindset he has.
Remind yourself there’s no fear, stress, or worry in heaven. God isn’t wringing his hands wondering if things will turn out okay. And there are no broken hearts there, even if your own is still healing here. Self-control trusts the pieces of your heart to Jesus, when pain and fear warn you to lock them away. Even if you don’t understand why things have happened the way they have, you don’t have to let pain and fear define your life. You can live each day focused on his unrelenting love, healing, kindness, and goodness toward you, secure in who you are, and confident in who you’re becoming.
Self-control means you can process even the most difficult days through Psalm 27:13: “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord here, in the land of the living.”